Shortly into this deployment the lessons started pouring in. To think of how many military families have gone through such a strengthening time.
1. Things break. Like the fridge, full of food, at 7 o’clock at night for no apparent reason. Things stay broken, like that pesky hall light that isn’t really necessary to see anything but still a constant reminder of your fear of heights. Yes a stepping stool is a height. Stop laughing.
2. Kids get sick, often. What wouldn’t be a huge inconvenience is now. One kid is sick one isn’t. How to finagle a trip to the ER without both coming home with the plaque. Okay dramatic I know but these are thoughts that enter a woman’s mind as she waits for 3 hours in a crusty, is that the right word, yes crusty ER room.
3. Some things he is just better at doing. Like making tea or taking out the trash. Probably because I do not have to do it! But still, there is something about a man who takes out that trash that makes life a little sweeter.
4. Missing someone doesn’t get easier. Sure you get a routine down and the kids become better at coping but that dull heart ache that can sometimes turn nights into mornings without rest is always there.
5. Being a military spouse isn’t the hardest job. I have heard that mantra from so many people looking to give me praise and I have to say “nuh uh”. While I appreciate the sentiment, and yes sometimes aaggghh, but it isn’t accurate. He is doing what he loves but he had to leave another hundred things he loves to do it. Such as the kids, pizza and not to toot my own horn too much but ME. All because he loves his country.
6. True friends show up. When the hours crawl and the babies scream true friends have a spotlight on them. More so if the come bearing wine or chocolate! Delicious chocolate.
7. It gets lonely. In a room full of people, to talk to and laugh with, it gets soul emptying lonely.
8. Never discount what a good laugh is capable of changing. There are days when it can get pretty self-pitying up in here. Laugh at the kids playing in fact make them laugh. This day shall too pass.
9. Time will always tick away. Where do you want to be when it has? Meaning don’t sit on the couch waiting for the homecoming. Get out and make yourself really worth coming home to.
10. When all else fails set a goal, a purpose, to focus on and keep moving.