When I was pregnant I made up my mind to try to breastfeed. Read all the recommendations handed over by my doctor and was assured I would take to it after a while. But still I had heard so many negative things about the effort (pain, physical changes, pain) that I was compelled to set a goal of one year at least to try to give my Sweets the healthiest start. Since I am person that thrives with goals I knew this would aid me.
The stories of pain and loss of identity as a separate entity set my nerves for my first feeding sessions. I was intimidated by the notion I might mess up and make my baby less inclined to take to nursing. So much literature out there to read before giving birth and so little energy set me up for a mind jumble mess near the end of month nine. The normal rush of ideas of failure popping into a Mother to be’s brain did not help either. But I have to say from the first moment that wrinkly little peach of a baby took to me I have never since doubted the gift of nursing. I have learned so many simple truths that can be applied to life in general simply by nursing. Still am awe-struck at how far we have come in the blink of an eye.
1. Relax you know what you are doing. So many times we get jumbled by the would a/could a/should a voices that we dull out our own voice. You have great instincts as a parent already sometimes it is best just to listen them instead of others.
2. It gets messy, it is okay. Like forgetting your nursing pads at a day long briefing messy. Don’t worry there will never be a mess so big you can’t clean up. ( and hey people will forget too, eventually )
3. The quiet moments make it worth while. In my younger days I would have found this statement dull as dishwater but today I am a changed woman. Gasp darn I say a matured woman who fully appreciates that beauty of life in the quiet moments. Soft breathing and warm cuddling moments make it ALL worth while.
4. Sometimes you fail. It is okay. I have had crying nights or nursing strikes galore. Well, at least a few and will say it is fine. The bad days do not last if you push through. Just keep trying.
5. No one is perfect. I haven’t met one person yet who has surpassed all of life’s struggles or woes. And I have not met anyone without flaw. So while you feel alone in your down days remember you are not. We have all been there and gotten through. You will too.